Friday, December 25, 2009

1Malaysia

“In the history of humanity there are known many examples when entire civilizations have perished because knowledge outweighed being or being outweighed knowledge”

In ordinary thinking people do not distinguish understanding from knowledge. They think that greater understanding depends on grater knowledge. Therefore they accumulate knowledge, or that which they call knowledge, but they do not know how to accumulate understanding and do not bother about it.

So, a modern man lives in sleep, in sleep he is born, and in sleep he dies, so what knowledge can a sleeping man have? And if you think about it and at the same time remember that sleep is the chief feature of our being.

“Knowledge is one thing, understanding is another thing”.

There are, “two lines along which man’s development proceeds, the line of knowledge and the line of being. In right evolution the line of knowledge and the line of being develop simultaneously, parallel to and helping one another.

But if the line of knowledge gets too far ahead of the line of being, or if the line of being gets ahead of the line of knowledge, man’s development goes wrong, and sooner or later it must come to a standstill.

This is exactly what people do not understand. And they do not understand that knowledge depends on being. Not only do they not understand this latter but they definitely do not wish to understand it, for example those who possess great knowledge, he may be an able scientist, make discoveries, advance science, and at the same time he may be, and has the right to be, a petty, egoistic, caviling, mean, envious, vain, naive, and absent-minded man. It seems to be considered here that a professor must always forget his umbrella everywhere.

And yet it is his being. And people think that his knowledge does not depend on his being, modern people put great value on the level of a man’s knowledge but they do not value on the level of a man’s being and are not ashamed of the low level of their own being. They do not even understand what it means. And they do not understand that a man’s knowledge depends on the level of his being.

If knowledge gets far ahead of being, it become theoretical and abstract and inapplicable to life, or actually harmful, because instead of ‘serving life and helping people the better to struggle with the difficulties they meet, it begins to complicate man’s life, bring new difficulties into it, new troubles and calamities which were not there before.

The reason for this is that knowledge which is not in accordance with being, such preponderance of knowledge over being is observed in present day culture. The idea of the value and importance of the level of being is completely forgotten that the level of knowledge is determined by the level of being.

So, the most characteristic feature of a modern man is the absence of unity in him. In sleep he is born and in sleep he dies.

Generally speaking, the being of modern man is of very inferior quality. But it can be of such bad quality that no change is possible.

People whose being can still be changed are very lucky. But there are people who are definitely diseased, broken machines with whom nothing can be done, and such people are in majority. So, the balance between knowledge and being is even more important than a separate development of either or the other. And a separate development of knowledge or of being is not desirable in any way. Although it is precisely this one-sided development that often seems particularly attractive to people.

Though the idea of one-sided is attractive to everybody, but this existence is one, we all are not separate from it. The separation, one-sided, bias or lopsided, is very illusory. We are joined together, we are one whole, we are not islands… We should be one continent, it is an interconnected whole.

The whole is one-separation is not possible. The very idea of separation or bias is the barrier. The idea of separation is what we call the ego, live as part of this infinite whole, not living as a separate entity. ‘Remember, for the whole not for the part!‘ When the part exist in the whole, everything is harmonious, when the part starts existing on its own, everything becomes disharmonious’. Another word there is discord, conflict, confusion as current situations in our country; remember when you are not fused with the whole, Remember! There is bound to be confusion, whenever you are not with the whole you are unhappy, everybody is upset. Let this be the definition of happiness:

To be with the whole is to be happy,
To be with the whole is to be healthy,
To be with the whole is to be holy,

To be separate or bias is to be unhealthy,
To be separate or bias is to be neurotic,
To be separate or bias is to fall from grace.

To all leaders of the country, remember! You will leave your mark for the future generation, after fifty years of running the country, or only for seven seconds, but still you will leave a mark; anything big or great or you may be nobody, you will leave your mark, it will affect the whole destiny of existence. The whole will not be the same.

Remember again the whole is one... ‘1MALAYSIA’, bias is not possible....

‘It is as if it were a vast spider web. Have you tried? Touch the spider’s web anywhere and the whole web starts shaking and trembling. The whole vibrates with it. You may not be able to see it right now, but things are so deeply related that it is impossible not to touch the stars by touching a leaf.’

The fall of man is not because he has disobeyed God. The fall is because man thinks he is separate entity. Man is so foolish, stupid. Understand the dimension of time. Past-future, and in space everybody is connected with everything. Everything is interdependence, nothing is separate, and so shouldn’t be any discrimination bias that can be disharmony.

The real man will have one universal consciousness or you want to call it ‘1MALAYSIA’ but the foundation will be by the meeting of science and religion. The whole existence is equal. The trees and the rocks, and the animals, and the birds all are sharing the whole existence on ‘EQUAL TERMS’. The moment you see this tremendous equality this oneness ‘1Malaysia’ then everybody is joyful. Joy that has no cause….. it is uncaused.

THE WORLD TODAY

A Strange Kind Of World.

People all over the world strive to acquire power by accumulating. Wealth, authority or knowledge, but unfortunately, along with these, the insidious evil of egoism is also being accumulated. So man is fast becoming the enemy of mankind, he is fast losing humanity itself.

He becomes less of man and more and more of demon. Man prefers the short cut, the more comfortable and attractive material path and he suffers in despair, fear and hatred. Egoism is the root and crown of evil thoughts and tendencies.

Our country (or any other country, for that matter) can be saved not by political manipulations or military alliances, but only through the development of the consciousness in each one, spiritual science alone can cure him and save the world. Instead of trying to expend over the whole globe and universe.

Man should try to probe into his own inner world and remove the junk therein and set at rest the evil urges that raise their hoods there. World peace and prosperity can be accomplished only by such explores and pioneers. Please imbibe!

"Do not preach; but practice."

In politics, in the field of administration, in school and colleges, in spiritual institutions everywhere, we have a surfeit of preachers but a famine of practitioners.

Heroes on platforms prove themselves zeros when they deemed to the ground. So leaders of the world, there for, demonstrate in your own lives, how love can confer peace and joy, how all faiths lead to the same goal, how all men are brothers of one another.

We have in this country or any other country, plenty of scientist, scholars, spiritual teachers and seasoned politicians... But of what avail?

They work at cross-purposes, each one, unconcerned with the rest. One scientist is the rival of another one scholar is at logger heads with another expert in the same field. And of politicians is also at logger heads in the same arena.

My massage to all politicians... The less said the better. Please remember! When this vice of disunity rules, peace and prosperity can never be established in the country and all over the world in spite of all the progress in technology.

They can be developed only when mutual cooperation, friendly feeling, love and compassion grow in man's heart. The world can shine fresh and fair, green and grand, with festoons and flags on every doorstep only when these qualities are fostered by man.

Living has become very artificial. Men are moving in blind fear, not knowing what might happen to them at the next step. Men today inventing and testing weapons which can wipe out millions and injure even coming generations. But you feel proud of man's intelligence and cleverness! Some people even admire such inventors!

The world is full of people who suffer from insanity. Today we talk about peace in the world. How can that peace be found? How can you find peace in a world which is in "pieces"? Holding the atom bomb in one hand, is there any meaning in talking about peace? When you are haunted by fear how can you have peace?

Now the cry from the heart of everyone is for peace. Peace is what everyone seeks, please remember man is the synthesis of all the feelings, emotions and reactions that arise in his mind. The mind is the seat of all urges, desires and thoughts. When the mind is clean the world, recognized by it will also be clean. When the mind is turbid and riddled with fear, the world will appear miserable and depressing.

Many people blame the world, without knowing that the fault lies in themselves. Their thinking is crooked, their thought are not wholesome, their minds are restless; because they are too full of unfulfilled desires. Rich or poor, educated or uneducated, high or low, they see the world through the glasses of their own prejudices and predilections and they condemn or extol it in order to please themselves!

Seeing the advances made in science and technology, you have lost balance. Man has learned to walk on the moon, to live in the depths of the ocean, to penetrate into the deepest crusts of earth and let other men too to live on the surface of the earth. How can man achieve happiness and peace of mind, flying high or swimming deep? He has to carry his troubles and worries, fears and failings with him to those places also.

This is a tragedy; it is like the man who closed his eyes and stumbled along in the darkness. Now the wave of anxiety spreading over the world, the world today is like a garden with no water, a school with no teacher, overcome by inner foes, how can man succeed in over whelming the outer foes?

The world leader gather in Peace Conferences in order to plan wars. He ignores the principle of love that is the life- blood of the human community. He denies himself the boon of peace and rushes towards destruction. Destroying others... He destroys himself.

Everywhere there is dark cloud of anxiety, fear, discontent and agony, disturbing the rich as well as the poor nations of the world. Please remember the prosperity of the world does not descend from the sky. Nor does it emerge of its own accord from the earth.

We should recognize the world does not mean just the lifeless soil around us. The world consists of a conglomeration of people and it is what they make of it. To rectify the world and put it on proper path. we have to first rectify ourselves and our conduct.

If there is righteousness in the heart,
There will beauty in character;
When there is order in the nation,
There will be peace in the world.

So, be righteous. Avoid all prejudices against others on the basis of caste, creed, colour, status or degree of affluence.

DISCIPLINE

Discipline is the mark of intelligent living. Parents should not allow children to fall away from their control and wander about without compass or anchor. Many parents feed and fondle their children, and then, in the name of freedom, leave them to find their own friends and pleasures.

They take them to films regardless of the impression they create on their tender minds. They entertain the friends of their children without inquiring into their antecedents of habit, not knowing that they will have to rue their action one day. They thus declare by their actions that day are the enemies of their own progeny!

Discipline trains you to put up with the disappointments; you will know that the path of life has both ups and down, that every rose has its thorn. Now, people want roses without thorns. Life has to one saga of sensual pleasure, a picnic all the time. When this does not happen, you turn wild and start blaming others. If each one cares for his own pleasures how can society progress? How can the weak survive?

You must examine every act to find out whether it will cause pain to others; if it does, withdraw from it. Do not do the others what you do not like others to do unto you ... Remember!

'This is called the Golden Rule'.

Yes, it is the best test for distinguishing right from wrong. If another person has with him what you like to have, do not make him miserable by snatching it from him. Would you like something you like, to be snatched away from you by another?

Discipline simply means systematic and methodical way of doing what ought to be done at the proper time with full faith and conscious compulsion. Such wholehearted self application to work, to ensure the maximum chances of success.

Why should there be Discipline?

Generally speaking, man by nature is neither active nor slothful, but both. In the absence of any urge to survive, he would be lazy. It is therefore essential that the works always in a disciplined way, lest lazy feelings overcome him any time to the detriment of one and all.

Discipline teaches us to do the right thing, at the right time, in the right manner. Discipline thus ensures not only good actions but living in harmony with others too. In the absence of discipline, social life would be full of conflicts and violence like that among beasts, please remember!

"Discipline serves as bounds to a rushing torrential river of work to direct it towards the objective in quiet and peaceful way."

Why is duty tagged to discipline?

If one is thirsty, one needs water promptly. If consequence of delays in simple matters thus is harmful, how much worse would be that if one considers delays in society, with many persons and multifarious duties that may be generally interdependent.

Discipline must taught. They must develop a broad outlook, they must cultivate clean, healthy habits. Discipline is important in order to progress in learning and even more so in dealing with others. An indisciplined person is a danger to society; any moment he may run amuck . Man
must recognize what limits, regulations and do's and dont's are laid down by the sages in order to ensure social security and individual advancement.

REALIZE THE TRUE GOAL OF YOUR LIFE

In the world, we are continually experiencing the same round of days and nights. You perform the same ablutions and indulge in the same process of filling the stomach. Thus you go on from year to year.

But what efforts are you making to lead a purposeful and ennobling life? You are going through the same mill of experiences again and again. If you go on in this way,...what is the worth of your life?..What is its primary purpose? Few care to enquire into this basic question.

Hence what we have to examine is how we can lead an ideal, bliss filled, spiritually-oriented life which will serve an example to others. But most people never recognize the basic purpose of life. They seem to consider that the sole aim of life is to acquire wealth eat and drink and enjoy material comforts. This surely cannot be the main purpose of life. To recognize the primacy of human birth among living beings and yet fail to realize the true goal of his life.

Man needs a healthy body for a healthy mind, filled with good thoughts. It must be recognized that sports and music have been designed to confer health and happiness on man. But physical fitness alone is not enough.

Mental health is equally important. Please remember! Together with the gross physical body everyone has a "Subtle body...soul". One has to take good care of this subtle body also. For this, spiritual exercises will have to be performed which will help one to realize the Divine.

Al-Quran, Scriptures of any religions are guides for practical living... of what avail is it merely to know how the Quran or Scriptures have described, but this book lore is not reflected in his life. He is like a blind man who hears about the existence of the world. But cannot see it. There is no difference between this physically blind man and the spiritually blind person who merely studies the Quran or the Scriptures. The Quran or the Scriptures are intended to provide guides for practical living and not merely to be learnt by rote.

How much love and goodness is there in you?
When there is no 'Love and Goodness', how God can be understood? Remember!

For understanding anything subjective experience is essential.

In the fast-flowing river, a small fish is able to swim freely and joyously, without fear of the depth a swift flow of the river. But in the same river, a big elephant is likely to be swept away by the current. One should know how to keep afloat in the current and protect oneself.

A tiny ant, for instance, is able to get at the sugar that is mixed with sand, because it has the ability to distinguish between..."sand and the sweet sugar in the mixture", another animal or man, however big it may be if it does not possess this ability, it cannot separate the sugar from the sand. Likewise, if man has experienced the bliss of the Divine, will he go after worldly pleasures?

So, realize the true goal of your life.

TAKE EVERY EFFORT TO REMOVE DIRT FROM YOUR HEART

A farmer who wants to raise a crop in the field has to remove, at the outset, the weeds from his field. If different types of weeds grow, the crop will be affected adversely.., remember!.. Removing the weeds is an essential precondition for getting a good crop.
In the same way, a 'spiritual aspirant' has to remove from his heart the various manifestation of 'malice, desire, greed, anger, hatred and jealousy.'..Remove these weeds!

If we invite some great man, such as a saint or a learned person to our house, some preparations will have to be made at home, to make it presentable.
We have to clean the house and surroundings before the guest comes to our house.
A house which is not clean lacks sacredness and great people would not go to such places. In the same way, if we invited a minister or governor to our village, we would clean the road and decorate the path and keep everything fit and proper for receiving the eminent visitor.

"If we take so much care and precaution
when we invite a person who has only a temporary position." Remember!

How much more clean should we keep our heart when we invite the very 'Creator' and the protector of the world 'Himself' to enter!

It is only when we purify our heart that God will be able to enter it... So, make every effort to remove the dirt from your heart. Whatever scriptures, Quran one may study or pilgrimages , one may make, unless one succeeds in getting rid of the impurities in the heart, life will remain worthless and meaningless. Remember! Purification of the heart is the essence of all scriptural or the teaching of the Quran and it is the basic goal of life.

PURIFICATION OF THE HEART IS THE BASIC GOAL OF LIFE

Take another example: These days when one goes on a picnic, one takes a mirror, a comb and a handkerchief. Why do they take these thing? On the way, the wind may blow their hair out of place, and they may need a mirror, and a comb to tidy it. When they get hot and tired, there may be some sweat on the face, so they take a handkerchief to wipe it off. These three things help maintain one's looks. Remember! In the same way.., if you want to correct the disturbed beauty of the mind and the heart, you have to take certain things.

Remember also!

Whether our hair is dishevelled or not, is shown by the mirror. To find out whether our mind or heart is disturbed or not... devotion acts as the mirror. These mirror also must be clean. If the mirror is clean, it will be easy to see whether there is impurity in the heart or not. When we recognize that the heart or mind is disturbed, we have to correct it; for this purpose, we need the comb of wisdom. The cloth which we wipe the dirt from our heart (detachment). This removes all the dirt, in the journey of life, wherever we go, we need to have devotion, wisdom and detachment.

No spiritual study can help to purify one's heart unless one makes the effort himself. Then only you can get rid of evil qualities like ego, selfishness and pride. Every action done without ego leads to divinity. Ignoring this truth, man indulges in meaningless actions. People recite the Quran, Geetha, Bible, achieve proficiency in expounding it, but do not live up to the message.

Without putting it into practice, please remember!..

"Heaven and hell are not far away places,
they are related to one's actions, mind and heart."

If you make an honest examination of the impure state of your heart and the kind of double life you are leading, you will be able to get rid of your bad thoughts in a moment.
But what people are doing now is to conceal their heart and thoughts... But extremely, yes! Well-dressed and move about as impeccable person. Of what use is such conduct? We attach importance to external appearance of the body and value respect shown to it.

Please understand!..

One who cares only for the body and ignores, the state of the heart is only...
'A two-legged animal'.

WHAT EXACTLY IS MENTAL PEACE

Mental peace means, the mind should be freed from bad thoughts and filled with sacred thoughts. This calls for control over all the sense organs.

The ears should be trained to listen only to matters relating to the Divine and to eschew evil gossip. The eyes should be told to see glory of God. The mind should be restrained from restlessness. They should reduce their worldly concerns, this will help to purify their minds. Take into your head all that is useful... After that transmit in to the heart. That will generate real energy.

Please remember! What is received in the head comes and goes, the mind seeks happiness. But this happiness is temporary. It is satisfaction of needs and desires as they arise from time to time. You are hungry, you take food and you feel happy. But this lasts only for a few hours till you feel hungry again. This kind of happiness comes and goes. This process relates to the mind (head). But the heart is concerned with securing lasting bliss.

So, "follow the heart" - not "the head" (mind). That is the way how to secure mental peace.
Dear Readers!
You must understand the difference between the head and the heart. The mind is content to carry out temporary obligations. The heart is concerned with what is permanent. Once bliss is secured all the head or mind seeks such as "mental peace" will also be got.

"Prayer is for the mind... For mental peace".
What food is for the body? Just as wholesome food gives health and strength
to the body, prayer purifies the mind and strength the spirits:


Material progress alone cannot bring mental peace. It is a mistake to seek an unending series of pleasures and comforts in life... Real mental peace cannot be found that way without experiencing difficulties and troubles one cannot know the value of peace and pleasure.

Man thinks that the more he has of worldly goods the happier he would be. But , as desires grow, disappointments and troubles also increase, attachments and ambitions. The world is suffering from numerous troubles because these people their mental is in trouble, they set no limits to their desires.

Please understand! Nature has prescribed limits for everything - for the temperature of the body, the capacity of the eye to tolerate light or for ear to listen to sound. When these limits are crossed, harm is caused to the mental organs concerned.

Mind of man should undergo transformation that is 'IT' (Inner Transformation). The mind or mental of man must promote not bondage but liberation. It must turn Godward, and inward, not worldward and outward, please remember!. The mind plays many tricks to please you and give you a great opinion about yourselves. It revels in hypocrisy, riding on two horses at the same time.

For mental peace, the proper control of the mind, which is the cause of both happiness and sorrow, is necessary, and please bear in mind, this control cannot be achieved by merely reading the Quran or any Scriptures or practising certain rituals. Mere scholarship or the acquisition of knowledge about the external world will not lead to mental peace. If one is engaged all the time in the acquisition of information, when is he to undertake the task of transformation?

You can try one beautiful experiment; just put some sand on a plate and then when somebody is playing music, put your plate with the sand on top of it... You will be surprised to see that every sound makes a change in the pattern of the sand on the plate. It goes on changing with every sound.

Classical music will put all the sand in a very silent, very harmonious state; it will create a pattern of harmony.

The same sand, the same plate and any stupid kind of modern music - from jazz to the skinheads - and you will be surprised that your sand is in a chaos. It loses all harmony. It loses all peacefulness and patterns are created which show immediately to anybody disharmony or mental discord.

A man of mental peace or a man of silence moves with a certain field of energy around him, and if you are receptive, his vibe starts touching your heart.

Man has been given two boons (happiness and peace). Every person in the world, from a king to a beggar, desires only these two. But what is the happiness that he should seek? Is it physical, mental, or material pleasure? Men are not sure about what kind of happiness they want and wherefrom they can get it. If it is sensory pleasure that they want, they will find that these are only momentary and that they are weakened at the end.

This is not pleasure at all. What about mental peace? People consider freedom from worry as peace, please remember that there can be no (pleasure) without (peace).

How is mental peace to be secured?
"Only when desires are reduced
will peace be secured.
As desires grow, peace is lost."

"Your mind is your battlefield."

SUAMI - APAKAH PERKARA PENTING UNTUK MEMBUAT SEORANG ISTERI ITU GEMBIRA?

Kisah rumahtangga untuk di kongsi bersama......

Jangan lontarkan segala kesilapan atau kesalahan serta tanggungjawab kepada isteri. Pertama, kitalah yang memilih untuk dijadikan ia sebagai 'ISTERI'. Kenapa kita pilih dia yang sebegitu rupa yang sentiasa saja membuat kita rasa tercekik dan terancam?"

Ingat!.. Adakah kita terfikir, jika kita menceraikannya, kita tidak akan lagi memilih 'seorang lagi wanita yang sama jenisnya'? Kalau kita bertanya kepada ahli psikologi (penganalisis jiwa), katanya; kita akan tetap memilih 'perempuan yang sama'. Kita menyangka isteri kita saja punca segala permasalahan dan kesengsaraan. Itu petanda kita yang inginkan masalah itu, sebab itu kita yang memilihnya. Seperti kata pepatah:

"Perigi Tidak Mencari Timba...
Tetapi Timbalah Yang Mencari Perigi."

Justeru, siapakah 'PERIGI'
dan siapakah 'TIMBA'?

Ingat!.. Kita akan sekali lagi mencari'perigi'. Ertinya kita akan cari 'wanita yang sama' dan 'sejenis', ingat!..

"PEREMPUAN adalah PEREMPUAN!"

Ia akan menjadi 'isteri' kepada 'suami', dan bakal menjadi 'ibu' kepada beberapa orang anak... 'Anak' tetap 'anak', sama ada daripada wanita yang pertama, kedua atau ketiga. Dalam erti kata lain, kita tetap akan tertarik kepada 'wanita yang sejenisnya'. Kecuali kita benar-benar dapat menggugur 'akal lama' kita sama sekali.

Terimalah akal kita itu, sebenarnya kita tetap dengan akal kita. Tentu kita berfikir, jika kita menceraikannya.., keadaan kita akan bertambah baik. Sebenarnya cara berfikir begitu amat silap... Sangat-sangat silap, kerana:

"Kita tidak faham atau tidak tahu
langsung mengenai ilmu psikologi"

(kajian mengenai fikiran dan peranannya serta ciri-cirinya).

Kita akan terperangkap lagi, kita akan sekali lagi mencari 'wanita lain' 'perempuan lain' untuk dijadikan 'ibu'. Anda akan menyesal, kita akan merinduinya, dia akan merindui kita... Ingat!.. Kita akan mencari 'jenis yang sama' iaitu 'perempuan', ingat itu!. Dan perhatikan akal kita itu.

Oleh itu bukan dia saja patut dipersalahkan, kita suami mesti juga ada kesilapannya. saya katakan kepada kawan saya itu, bahawa saya hanya mendengar cakapnya, dari sebelah pihak, daripada pihak isterinya, saya tidak tahu. Justeru, kata saya, adalah tidak adil bagi saya untuk menghakim, menghukum dan mengadil. Saya berkata lagi kepadanya, bahawa dia selaku suami, mungkin 50% betul... Tetapi bagaimana dengan isterinya yang 50% lagi?..

Justeru kata saya:
"Kamu tidak ubah seperti
menyimbah minyak ke api."


Jika kehidupan ini kelihatan sangat tidak bermakna dan hodoh, kenapa dilahirkan ketiga-tiga anak itu ke dunia ini? Siapakah yang bertanggungjawab ke atasnya? Kenapa dibawa ketiga-tiga 'roh' budak itu ke dunia ini? Di dunia yang penuh dengan permasalahan berkeluarga, di dalam dunia yang penuh dengan kepalsuan.., kenapa?

Tidakkah ada sedikitpun kasih sayang untuk anak-anak itu? Begitulah sebenarnya kita manusia, terus saja pandai melahirkan anak-anak tanpa memikir akan akibah dan natijahnya.

Kalaupun hidup kita ini dirasakan, bagaikan di dalam neraka, sekurang-kurangnya kita dapat melindungi anak-anak itu dari terjebak ke dalam kesengsaraan atau pertelingkahan kita. Kita patut menyelamatkannya!

Budak-budak itu membesar di depan mata seorang ayah dan ibu yang sudah tidak sehaluan lagi. Tahukah apa kesannya kepada anak-anak itu? Banyak yang dipelajarinya daripada kedua ibu bapanya. Dia akan terus saja 'mengabadikan' ke dalam otaknya selama-lamanya di dunia ini. Bila kedua ibu bapanya sudah tiada kelak, si anak akan atau mungkin mengikut jejak langkah kita yang jahil lagi bodoh itu, suatu penghidupan yang sangat sedih dan mengecewakan.

Sama ada yang akan berkahwin, sudah berkahwin, yang akan bercerai atau yang sudah bercerai.., kalau tidak berlakunya perceraian, sekurang-kurangnya kita dapat menyelamatkan kehidupan ketiga-tiga anak tersebut, atau dapat menyelamatkan masa depan kemanusiaan. Ingat pepatah ini!..

"Bila kita melontar seketul batu ke dalam tasik yang sedang tenang 'keharmonian', batu itu akan jatuh ke dasar dan berehat di situ. Tetapi ombak atau gelombang kecil terus saja bergelombang menyusur tebing..."

Tetapi ingat! Lautan kehidupan tidak bertepi dan bertebing, maka gelombang hidup kita akan terus saja, terus-menerus dirasai oleh anak-anak dan kita selaku ibu bapalah penyebabnya!..

Itulah natijahnya... Sekurang-kurangnya kita patut berwaspada, tidak melahirksn anak. Masih tidak terlewat, bagi yang belum bercerai, bagi yang sudah terlanjur, laluilah hidup itu!.. Suka diingatkan.., kehidupan masih boleh diubah, bagi kita orang lelaki, jangan harapkan perubahan berlaku daripada pihak perempuan dahulu, itu pendekatan yang salah atau tidak betul.

Ada pepatah mengatakan:

"Kalau hendak mengubah atau berubah,
mulakanlah perubahan itu daripada diri sendiri".


Jadilah 'orang baru' dalam hidup berumah tangga, berhentilah dari melakukan kerja-kerja yang negatif atau tidak sepatutnya. Ceburilah kerja-kerja baru yang disukai dan menyenangkan diri kita, orang ramai dan keluarga kita sendiri. Jadilah orang baru dalam rumah tangga nanti kita sendiri akan kagum atau terkejut. Ingat! Bila kita jadi 'orang baru' dalam keluarga, isteri kita juga akan turut menjadi 'orang baru'... Ingat itu!.. Ia akan terpaksa.., untuk menyahut perubahan kita itu.

Mula-mula memang agak sukar, ia seolah-olah seperti bersama dengan 'suami baru'.
Tetapi lama kelamaan.., jika isteri sudah melihat kita sudah berubah.., boleh berubah!.. Kenapa tidak dia?

Ingat!.. Sebagai suami, jangan harap si isteri patut berubah.., ingat ini di dalam setiap 'perhubungan'... "Mulai Perubahan Daripada Diri Sendiri Dahulu!"... Nanti...

Kehidupan berumah tangga boleh berubah menjadi 'syurga'. Sebenarnya masih belum terlambat, yang sudah bercerai, kalau belum berkahwin boleh rujuk semula. Tetapi perlukan kekuatan, keberanian, untuk berubah. Cuma yang diperlukan adalah sedikit kesedaran daripada kedua-dua belah pihak!

Rombaklah sikap dan kelakuan kita, perhatikan sikap dan kelakuan itu, apa yang telah dilakukan dan dijalani selama ini.. Kita melakukan perkara-perkara yang sama saja sehinga kini... Si isteri begitu juga, ia tidak ubah sudah menjadi satu corak yang tidak boleh diubah...

Contoh dan perhatikan!...

Perhatikan suami atau isteri kita.., aktiviti hariannya sudah boleh diramal... Si suami sebelum pergi kerja, membuka surat khabar dan membaca, si isteri menyediakan secawan kopi, si isteri akan berkata sesuatu yang telah diulang-ulang sejak bertahun-tahun lamanya. Si suami demikian juga, beraksi dan respon yang sama. Ia seolah-olah telah tersusun, diatur atau diprogramkan dan bagaikan tidak boleh dirongkai, diubah atau diserak dan mengubah corak baru.

Buatlah sedikit perubahan.., kita selaku suami!... Nanti sesuatu akan berlaku, sangat berbeza!.. Esok lazimnya kita membaca surat khabar, jangan lagi duduk di kerusi yang sama, membaca surat khabar di waktu pagi. Ambil penyapu, sapu keliling rumah, cuba lihat apakah yang akan berlaku? Orang rumah kita akan terperanjat, dia tidak akan percaya apa yang terjadi kepada kita, senyumlah apabila kita melihat isteri kita. Peluk dan dakaplah ia, lihat apakah reaksinya?..

Mungkin kita jarang memeluknya sejak begitu lama. Kita jarang melihat ke matanya secara telus dan ikhlas. malam ini duduklah berhadapan dengannya, renunglah matanya, pastinya dia menganggap kita sudah tidak betul, tetapi jangan dirisaukan. Dekati dan pegang tangannya dengan penuh ghairah. Kalau kita tidak boleh melakukannya, berpura-puralah melakukannya, tetapi dengan penuh ghairah, mulakanlah dengan senyuman tanpa apa-apa sebab.., nanti isteri akan mula bertanya dan hairan.

Sejak lama kita tidak pernah memegang tangannya. Ingat tak, sudah berapa lama agaknya? Pernahkah kita ajak dia berjalan-jalan di taman, bila bulan sedang mengambang di bawah jutaan bintang? Ingatlah!.. Dia isteri kita adalah juga seorang perempuan yang bergelar manusia. Dia perlukan belaian dan kasih sayang.

Tetapi kebanyakan lelaki yang bergelar 'suami', menjadikan isteri sebagai 'hamba rumah tangga'. Ingat! "Pernahkah kita menghormatinya sebagai insan, yang juga perlu dihormati?"

"Pernahkah kita duduk di sisinya sekali sekala, diam-diam sambil memegang tangannya, jangan berkata apa-apa, cuma sentuhan rasa dan perasaan."

"Suami isteri lazimnya cuma ada satu saja
jenis perhubungan, iaitu: Bertengkar atau Berkelahi!"


Jangan berfikir hanya isteri kita saja yang bersalah, mungkin juga ada kesalahan, tidak dinafikan!.. Walau bagaimanapun, berilah mereka peluang dan ruang, sedikit erti dan makna yang sangat bermakna dalam hidupnya. berilah mereka sedikit rasa dan erti hidup yang ia inginkan.

"Apakah yang sangat-sangat diperlukan dalam hidup ini?" Jawapannya adalah,'KEPERLUAN'!.. Berilah mereka 'keperluan' itu yang diinginkannya. Kecualilah kalau masing-masing sudah saling tidak memerlukan atau tidak ada keinginan, maka tidak berertilah hidup masing-masing, 'seperti padang pasir yang kering kontang'.

Tubuh badan, jika tiada siapa membelaikannya, atau tidak dibelai, ia akan 'mengering dan mengecut'. Tubuh itu akan kelihatan hodoh, jika tidak ada yang membelai dan memupuk serta menghargainya, tak ubah seperti 'rumah usang yang tiada penghuni'.

Nanti si suami dalam senyap-senyap memerhati, 'kenapa isteri aku kelihatan tidak cantik?' Semuanya itu kerana kita 'tidak mencipta' dan tidak pandai membelai bahawa:

"sekuntum bunga hanya akan berkembang
cantik dan indah jika iklimnya bersesuaian dan pandai menjaganya."


Jika kita menyintai seseorang, seseorang itu akan kelihatan cantik dan indah!., ibarat apa jua logam boleh bertukar menjadi emas. Lihatlah air muka orang yang mempunyai sifat kasih sayang!., air mukanya berseri.., 'AURA'nya berubah, mukanya menjadi bersinar, bercahaya dan berseri, darahnya mengalir ke muka, matanya menjadi berkilau penuh keajaiban!..

Memang!.. Kasih sayang memang punuh dengan 'KEAJAIBAN'. Masih tidak terlambat!., yang bercerai boleh rujuk semula, yang hendak retak boleh ditampal, yang terdedah boleh ditutup, apa saja masih belum terlambat, kecuali yang sudah mati!.. Itu namanya: 'Bercerai nyawa daripada tubuh'.

Justeru, Apakah perkara penting untuk membuat seorang isteri itu bahagia?
Hanya ada 'DUA' perkara penting:

1. Beri dia kebebasan memikir dengan caranya
2. Biar dia peroleh apa yang diinginkannya


Pandangan ini boleh diaplikasikan bagi kedua-dua pihak (suami dan isteri) untuk 'KETENANGAN dan KESEJAHTERAAN BERUMAH TANGGA'.

Sila panjangkan risalah ini kepada rakan-rakan, suami atau isteri yang sedang bertelingkah atau yang ingin bercerai atau yang sedang bercadang untuk berkahwin, dan yang sudahpun bercerai, agar penulisan ini akan dapat membuat mereka 'bertaut kembali' demi kesejahteraan anak-anak dan kerukunan rumah tangga.

PATIENCE..... THE HEART OF SPIRITUAL PRACTICE

Of all the noble characteristics that you must possess, none is more vital than patience or forbearance. Patience is the heart of all spiritual practice. It is the one quality which all spiritual aspirants must achieve in our life-time.

For truly wise, for the great sages and great souls, patience is their very splendor, their sacrifice, their righteousness... It is their wisdom, their immeasurable love.

Patience is the essence of nonviolence, compassion, and happiness. Patience is the very mark of all great beings. Truly patience is everything. Without patience it is not possible to realize the truth of the 'GOD'.

Patience cannot be learned by studying books. It cannot even be acquired by the teaching of a 'GURU'. It is not something which can be purchased in the bazaar. It is only by faithfully sticking to your spiritual practice, when you are under trying circumstances, that you will be able to acquire patience. It is when you are under test, in situations which are full of problems and difficulties, that the cultivation of patience takes place. Under those trying circumstances, weaknesses which are hidden within you will show their ugly heads. They will manifest in you as..;
'anger, fear, arrogance, hatred and many other evils that cover your essential truth'.

It is at such times that you must recognize these weaknesses and rise above them. Whatever action you must undertake that is appropriate to the situation, remember!., your inner state must be unaffected and rooted in unwavering peace and love. This is the practice of patience or forbearance...

If you have not developed patience then you will suffer a lot of unhappiness and lack of peace in your life. Without patience you may take to harmful and evil ways. Therefore, it is essential that you recognize the importance of patience. All the education, strength and renown that you may have acquired will be of no use to you if you do not have forbearance.

Lack of patience has made great scholars lose their prestige. Lack of patience is the most frequent reason for the loss of kingdoms by ruling kings.
Patience is the shining jewel that decorates a human being. If this quality is lost, you will suffer innumerable problems and sorrows.

Therefore, develop patience, it is essential for your spiritual progress. Without this quality you will come to ruin. Cultivate patience by the arduous practice of putting yourself to the test in very difficult circumstances. Patience is your vital protection. When you are equipped with patience you will not be troubled by grief or difficulties by problems or unexpected situations.

There is nothing extraordinary about returning good for good, but doing good in return for bad is an extraordinary quality. What is meant by doing good at all times, no matter whether it is right or wrong action that is directed towards you?

When you are established in your essential truth, when you are in touch with your reality, you cannot, but give the proper response under all circumstances, and it will come from the infinite reservoir of goodness and love. The practice of such a virtue requires a great deal of skill and courage, and a deep commitment to essential truth of the 'ONE GOD', present in all hearts...


Please imbibe!...

However much other people may criticize you, however much they may undermine and condemn you, you should never lose patience, you should remain unperturbed and continue to enjoy inner peace.

When others admonish you, what will you lose. But if because of weakness, you lose patience and forget your truth, then you are subject to endless suffering, and you lose everything.

You must have patience, but at the same time, you should know under what circumstances and in what manner to use them. There are situations in which you must temper your outward expression of patience. You need to use your discrimination to know how and when to express the quality of patience.., which should be ever firmly established in your heart.

Patience are indicators of your inward state. Consider the ability to exercise patience in difficult circumstances as a test. It is in these times that the negative qualities buried within you will rear their heads and will tend to manifest their selves in wrongful or harmful actions.

My friends!..

Welcome such difficult situations as challenges and opportunities to expose and destroy these negative qualities. You do this through your patience, and restraint, when otherwise your impulse would have been to use words or actions to harm. It is only after you achieve patience and established them firmly within you, that you will develop the inner peace and equanimity that is needed in order to understand the true principles of spirituality.

There are many negative qualities which must be completely shunned by you. In particular, you should not have any attachment, any hatred or any jealousy within you. If you have any attachment,'any hatred and jealousy, even in the smallest measure, you will not be able to progress spiritually'.

Attachment, 'hatred and jealousy, and their hand-maiden anger, are the great enemies'. They are the opposites of patience. We will take up these negative qualities next and learn how to completely uproot them.

"PATIENCE IS BITTER, BUT ITS FRUIT IS SWEET!

KEMATIAN ADALAH MISTERI BUKANNYA MASALAH

Jika kita memikirkan 'kematian' sebagai suatu masalah, itu ertinya kita sedang menuju ke arah destinisi yang salah. Demikianlah apa yang terjadi di muka bumi ini. Bumi ini bagaikan sebuah kapal atau bahtera. Demikian juga tubuh badan itu sedang kita layari ke hujung ke pangkal di dunia ini.

Sedang kita sibuk di alam maya ini, kita langsung tidak mahu ambil tahu akan asal usul tubuh badan dan nyawa itu, tanpa kita ketahui dari mana kita berasal dan ke mana kita akan pergi. Dalam kesibukan tersebut, kita dapat melihat seseorang sudah menjadi tua dan nyanyuk serta mendukacitakan. Kita juga mendengar dan melihat orang mati di sana sini.

Kita mula sedar dan ingin tahu, tetapi tiada siapa suka kepada 'ingin tahu' kita itu dan tiada siapapun berminat kepada pertanyaan kita itu. Realitinya jika kita cuba juga bertanya kepada seseorang.., apa itu 'kematian'? Seseorang itu akan berasa gelisah, semua cuba mengelak dari ditanya. Semua orang tidak mahu atau tidak suka pada topik tersebut, dan semua orang akan menyangka yang kita ini orang yang tidak sihat atau...!

Kenapa seseorang mesti menimbulkan pertanyaan yang memang mengerikan dan tidak disukai oleh semua orang? Kenapa mesti bercakap tentang kematian?.. Kerana perkataan 'mati' itu akan membuat seseorang itu cemas, dan gementar seluruh tubuh badannya. Kalau kita perasan, orang tidak gemar pada perkataan 'mati'. Apabila seseorang itu mati, mereka lebih gemar menggunakan perkataan "mereka sudah kembali" , semata-mata untuk mengelak dari menyebut perkataan 'mati' atau antara lain perkataan "mereka telah dipanggil oleh Tuhan".

Aneh bukan? Semata-mata untuk mengelak dari menyebut 'mati'. Kerana satu perkataan itu 'mati', namun apapun jua perkataan atau ayat, relitinya perkataan 'mati' sebenarnya sangat menggerunkan seseorang dan sangat tidak disukai oleh semua orang.
Perlu diingat!

"Tiada apa yang pasti, kecuali mati, selain
dari itu, semuanya tidak pasti".


Kematian adalah sesuatu yang sangat menyedihkan, ia sangat mengharu dan menyinggung seseorang. Namun biarlah ia pergi menemui Tuhannya. Tetapi tiada seorangpun yang berminat tentangnya.

Ambil ingatan saudara pembaca!..

Kita semua tidak boleh menyelesaikan erti 'penghidupan sebenar'; tiada apa yang dapat kita selesaikan... Kerana erti penghidupan sebenar sangatlah 'misteri', bukannya suatu masalah. Ingat!.. Kematiaan adalah misteri, bukannya permasalahan. Kita tidak mampu menyelesai atau menjawabnya. Ianya juga bukan 'silangkata', ia sangatlah misteri!.. Ia tetap sebagai suatu misteri. Kita perlu menerimanya sebagaimana ianya. Tiada jalan untuk sesiapa cuba merungkai atau menjawabnya.

Tetapi dengan menerimanya, kitalah orang yang faham akan hakikat sebenar istilah di sebalik kematian tersebut. Masalah tetap berada di situ, tetapi ianya bukanlah lagi suatu masalah. Dalam erti kata lain; tidaklah lagi menolak atau menentang apa jua yang dikatakan 'mati' itu. Kerana perkataan 'masalah' itu sendiri menunjukkan penentangan terhadap 'mati'.., takut akan kematian, ia bagaikan 'musuh' kita semua!..

Apabila kita sudah dapat menerima dan faham, kematian itu apa?.. Ia akan bertukar menjadi 'kawan'. Rasa takut tetap ada, tetapi ia bukan lagi suatu masalah besar, malah memang kita nanti-nantikan, yang sangat menggetarkan jiwa. Justeru, jika isteri atau suami kita mati atau meninggalkan kita, janganlah risau, jadikan ia suatu pengalaman yang mendebarkan jiwa kita. Tiada apa yang silap atau salah akan peninggalan seseorang dan ia juga bukan lagi permasalahan, gembiralah, bersyukurlah. Itulah 'realiti penghidupan'.

Tetapi siapakah yang peduli akan soal 'reliti'?
Kerana semua orang tidak berminat terhadap apa yang berlaku, dari mana asal usulnya dari mana ia datang dan ke mana ia akan pergi? Apakah yang akan terjadi kepada seseorang yang kita kasihi itu tiba-tiba lenyap begitu sahaja, tanpa akan kita lihat dan ketemu lagi. Namun.., kita semua menerimanya, suatu yang misteri itu!.. Tetapi tanpa ingin mengetahui secara lebih mendalam!..

Benar!.. Kita semua menganggap kematian sering berlaku setiap waktu, tetapi kita semua tidak mahu melihat fakta di sebalik setiap kematian. Kerana fakta tersebut akan mengganggu kita semua. Ia menyusahkan dan boleh mengganggu tidur seseorang.

Maka ramailah orang terus saja tidur dibuai mimpi kelalaian, cuba mengelak, mereka terus-menerus cuba mengelak kerana menyalah anggap.., bahawa 'misteri' adalah permasalahan. Ingat tajuk di atas..."Kematian Adalah Misteri, Bukannya Permasalahan".

Perlu diingat!..
Rasa tidak selamat adalah misteri. Kematian adalah misteri. Kasih sayang adalah misteri. Semuanya adalah misteri, dan yang dikatakan 'kemisterian' itu bukanlah sesuatu yang logikal, tidak akan difahami oleh akal... Tiada siapapun yang akan tahu...

Tahukah kita, bilakah masanya kita jatuh cinta dengan seorang perempuan atau wanita? Adakah kita jawapannya kenapa? Bolehkah kita menjawabnya?.. Sebenarnya ia tiba-tiba terjadi begitu saja, tanpa kita sedari. Pandangan pertama kepada seorang wanita, tiba-tiba hati kita berdetik dan berkenan. Kita tidak berdaya untuk menjawabnya, kemudian ia menjadi isteri, atau suami yang seiring dan menghuni di dalam satu bumbung yang sama.., bersama!..

Dan tiba-tiba, sesuatu berlaku, ia boleh lenyap begitu sahaja!.. Sekelip mata.., ia suatu misteri. Kita mungkin telah bersama sejak dua puluh tahun, penuh kasih sayang dengan segala keseronokan dan kegembiraan. Tiba-tiba suatu hari.., iklim atau suasana begitu tidak lagi dirasai, gelombang dan getarannya sudah tidak ada lagi. Kita masih berada di situ, tetapi isteri atau suami yang kita kasihi selama ini sudah hilang di mata... Tiba-tiba hilang begitu sahaja, tiba-tiba kosong, bagaikan tidak tahu entah ke mana!

Bayangkan kasih sayang yang dibina sejak dua puluh atau empat puluh tahun.., tiba-tiba sudah tidak ada di sisi kita, kegembiraan sudah lenyap! saudaraku pembaca, perlu diingat!..
"Kasih sayang bukan kepura-puraan dan
kasih sayang tidak mampu kita mengatur atau menguruskannya."


Tiada siapa yang mampu untuk mengatur atau mengurus kasih sayang Tuhan, ia lebih agong dari apa yang kita semua cuba fikirkan. Kasih sayang datangnya dari sumber yang 'SATU' itu, iaitu "kasih sayang pencipta itu sendiri", sebagaimana kelahiran dan kematian. dari manakah ia datang? Saudaraku, 'tiga' perkara ini:

1. Kelahiran 2. Kasih sayang 3. Kematian

Datangnya dari yang tidak kita ketahui. Ia tiba-tiba saja muncul bagaikan angin bayu yang menyentuh kita, kemudian tiba-tiba ia lenyap begitu sahaja.
Ketiga-tiga di atas, tiada siapa dapat menyelesaikannya, tetapi kita boleh memahaminya. Jika kita boleh memahaminya, ertinya terima sajalah, bahawa: kelahiran.., kasih sayang, dan kematian tetap berada di situ, pada diri masing-masing atau yang dikatakan pasangan kita itu. Dan jangan sekali-kali kita menganggapnya sebagai suatu masalah... Cuma ingat ianya adalah suatu 'misteri'.

Bila kita sudah benar-benar faham dan sudah dapat merasainya bahawa ianya adalah 'misteri', nanti kita benar-benar akan faham erti 'hidup' dan kita akan dapat merasai perhubungan yang sangat rapat terhadap seluruh yang hidup dan bernyawa. Ia merupakan suatu keraian, suatu kepercayaan dan keyakinan. Saudaraku yang dikasihi, perlu diingat! Semuanya itu hanya boleh berlaku:

"Jika akal kita sudah benar-benar tidak
lagi bertelingkah, berseloka dan bermain-main."


'Hati' itulah 'pusat' di mana boleh berlakunya kasih sayang sebenar, kelahiran berlaku, kematian juga berlaku. Ingat!..

"Bila mati berlaku.., hati itulah yang terhenti."
"Bila kasih sayang berlaku.., hati itulah yang menari-nari."
"Bila kelahiran berlaku.., hati itulah yang mula-mula sekali berdenyut."


Ambil ingatan saudaraku!..

Segala yang 'benar' lagi 'hak' itu adalah di 'hati', dan segala yang tidak benar, palsu dan batal adalah di 'akal'.

Akal, latarbelakangnya adalah 'dunia' tempat bermain-main. Justeru saudaraku, suatu perubahan yang sangat penting bagi kita semua adalah 'bagaimanakah untuk kita membuat anjakan tenaga "dari akal ke hati".

AGING AND MATURITY


There is great difference between 'maturity and aging'.., a vast difference, and people always remain confused about it. People think that to age is to become mature.., but remember!.. 'Aging' belong to the 'body'.

Everybody is aging, everybody will become old, but not necessarily mature... 'Maturity is inner growth'.
Aging is nothing that you do, aging is something that happens physically. Every child born, when time passes, becomes old. Maturity is something that you bring to your life.., it comes out of awareness:

"When a person ages with full awareness, he becomes mature. Aging plus awareness, experiencing plus awareness.., is maturity."

You can experience a thing in two ways. You can simply experience it as if you are hypnotized, unaware, not attentive to what is happening.., the thing happened but you were not there. It didn't happen in your presence, you were absent. You just passed by, it never struck any note in you. It never left any mark on you, you never learned anything from it. It may have become part of your memory, because in a way you were present, but it never became your wisdom. You never grew through it... Then you are aging... Please remember!

But if you bring the quality of awareness to an experience, the same experience becomes maturity. There are 'two' ways to live:
"One, to live in a deep sleep.., then your age, every moment you become old, every moment you go on dying that's all. Your whole life consists of a long, slow death".

But if you bring awareness to your experience.., whatsoever you do or happens to you... You are alert, watchful, mindful, you are savoring the experience from all the corners, you are trying to understand the meaning of it, you are trying to penetrate the very depth of it, what has happened to you, you are trying to live it intensely and totally... Then it is not just a surface phenomenon. Deep down within you something is changing with it. You are becoming more alert. If this is a mistake, this experience, you will not commit it again.

A mature person never commits the same mistake again. But a person who is just old goes on committing the same mistakes again and again... He lives in a circle, he never learns anything. You will be angry to day, you were angry yesterday and tomorrow, you are going to be angry and the day after tomorrow also. Again and again you get angry, again and again you repent, again and again you make a deep decision that you are not going to do it again.

But the decision makes no change... Whenever you are disturbed the rage takes over, you are possessed, the same mistake is committed... You are aging!
Maturity is most fundamental. It is a rhythm between opposites. You cannot be happy forever, otherwise happiness will lose all meanings. You cannot be in harmony forever, otherwise you will become unaware of the harmony. Harmony has to be followed by discord again and again and happiness has to be followed by unhappiness. Every pleasures has its own pain, and every pain has its own pleasure. Remember!..

"Unless one understands this opposites
of existence, one remains in unnecessary misery".


Accept the total, with all its agonies and all its ecstasies. Don't hanker for the impossible, don't desire that there should be only ecstasy and no agony. Ecstasy cannot exist alone, it needs a contrast... Remember!

Agony becomes the blackboard, then ecstasy becomes very clear and loud, just as in darkness of night, the star are so bright. The darker is the night, the brighter are the stars. In the day, they don't appear and don't disappear.., they simply become invisible. You cannot see them because there is no contrast.

'Death defines life... Aging defines maturity'. Gives it a kind of intensity, because life is fleeting. Each moments become precious.., next moment there is death, you have to plunge into the present moment.

You have to go to its ultimate depth because who knows? The next moment may come, may not come. Seeing this rhythm one is at ease, at ease with both.
When unhappiness comes one welcomes it, when happiness comes one welcomes it, knowing that they,
"are partners in the same game".

This is something that has to be continuously remembered. If it becomes a fundamental remembrance in you.., you becomes matured, your life will have a totally new flavor... You remain still, silent, accepting.
Matured person, is capable of being still, silent, accepting, pain, frustration and misery, transforms the very quality of misery itself. To him, misery also becomes a treasure.., to him even pain gives a sharpness. To him, even darkness has its own beauty, depth. To him, even death is not the end but only a beginning of something unknown.

Mature person are very strange, because maturity gives a sense as if he has experienced, as if he is aged old.... Physically he may be old, but spiritually, he is an innocent gained through life. To me, maturity is another name for realization. You have come to the fulfillment of your potential, it has become actual. The seed has come on a long journey and has blossomed.

Maturity has a fragrance. It gives a tremendous beauty to the individual. It gives intelligence, the sharpest possible intelligence:

"It makes him nothing but love. His action
is love. His death is love. He is just 'flower of 'LOVE'".

SELURUH DUNIA INI DENGAN SEGALA ISINYA, ADALAH ILLUSI

Orang-orang bodoh dan dungu sahaja lahirnya dalam illusi dan akan tumbuh mengembang serta membesar dalam illusi dan tanpa mengenal illusi atau khayalannya untuk apa dan apakah ianya? Ingat!.. Seluruh dunia dan segala isinya adalah 'maya dan illusi'.

Seluruh pergantungan kita terhadapnya adalah illusi, hidup berkeluarga adalah illusi, mati juga suatu illusi, apa jua yang kita lihat dan fikir adalah juga illusi.
Ke mana perginya, raja-raja, maharaja yang begitu gagah dan kuat sewaktu pemerintahannya? Mereka semua telah ditelan bumi mengikut peredaran waktu. Hari, minggu, bulan, tahun dan era, berulang-ulang antara satu sama lain.

Masa terus-menerus sahaja mengalir. Dalam pengaliran tersebut, setiap daripada kita, setiap objek, setiap orang, terus sahaja dibawanya bersama. Jika seluruh kebendaan juga turut dihanyutkan oleh arus masa dan tidak mampu bertahan serta tidak boleh kita jadikan tempat bersandar, berpaut atau bergantung... Justeru, siapakah boleh selamatkan siapa?

Ingat!.. Ada satu saja entiti yang tidak boleh hanyut atau dibawa oleh arus masa
dan boleh kita jadikan tempat berlindung dan penyelamat bagi semua.., 'adalah Tuhan itu sendiri'. 'Dia' sahaja yang boleh menyelamat dan melindungi kita.

Dia sahaja satu-satunya benteng atau tebing yang kukuh, suatu sungai yang 'pengalirannya tiada sudah' dan terus sahaja 'abadi', 'kekal' sampai bila-bila. Maka saudaraku!..

"Berpautlah kepadaNya (Allah). Itulah rahsia penghidupan ini".
Itulah tandanya yang kita ini benar-benar manusia. Antara lain perkataan:

"Jangan percaya pada dunia,
tetapi percayalah kepada 'ALLAH'".


Itulah cara hidup beragama yang betul, dan cara untuk menikmatinya.
Dalam erti kata lain:

"Kita boleh sahaja berada di dalam dunia, tetapi jangan jadi dunia itu sendiri".

Selalu sahaja ingat 3 prinsip ini bila kita berada di dalam dunia ini:

1. Jangan Lupa Tuhan
2. Jangan Sekali-kali Percaya Terhadap Dunia Ini.
3. Jangan Sekali-kali Takut Mati.


Itulah 3 (Tiga) prinsip utama yang mampu menjadikan kita... 'Insaan Kamil'.

Di dalam Al-Quraan, banyak kita dapati 'nilai' atau 'sifat-sifat terpuji' sebagai 'INSAAN KAMIL'. Tetapi adalah mustahil bagi setiap individu mampu memiliki sifat-sifat terpuji tersebut... Ia hanya mampu kalau kita sudah terlepas atau melepasi sifat-sifat 'fasik'.

"Siapa jua anda pembaca, halusi, amati ayat 24, surah At-Taubah"

Ingatan!..

"Jangan tipu diri sendiri, jangan duduk pada konsep sahaja. Belajarlah 'Ilmu Tauhid' secara sesungguhnya. Jangan menghafaz dan berseloka terhadap Ilmu Tauhid, kerana "kesempurnaan beragama terletak pada 'Ilmu Tauhid'!".


Tentang nilai-nilai atau sifat murni yang terdapat di dalam Al-Quraan, cukup banyak jika kita dapat mengamal 'satu' atau 'dua' sudah memadai.

"Berpegang Teguhlah Pada Tali Allah!" Bila kita sudah punya keyakinan yang amat mendalam terhadap Tuhan, maka bagaimana kuat sekalipun, budaya kuning datang melanda, kita tetap akan terpacak teguh, tidak akan hanyut dan tumbang.

Di dalam sekotak mancis, terdapat lebih kurang 50 batang anak-anak mancis. Jika kita inginkan apinya, kita cuma perlu ambil sebatang sahaja untuk keperluan kita, itu sudah cukup atau memadai.

Serupalah juga di antara sifat-sifat kebaikan yang terlalu banyak di saran oleh Al-Quraan atau hadis, jika salah satu di antaranya dijadikan amalan untuk kesempurnaan, itu sudah cukup dan memadai. Perkara yang paling 'UTAMA' penting adalah:

"Sifat Kasih Sayang yang tidak
bermotifkan apa-apa terhadap seluruh kewujudan".

Dalam erti kata lain..; "Kasih Sayang adalah Kasih Sayang Itu Sendiri".

Hiduplah dalam berkasih sayang, sayangilah semua orang, jika kita ingin dikasihi dan disayangi. Kasih sayang adalah 'sifat Tuhan', dan ianya juga petanda betapa dekatnya Tuhan kepada kita.

"Selamat menjalani dan mengamal
sifat-sifat Kasih Sayang".

LET ALL THE NOBLE HUMAN QUALITIES SHINE WITHIN YOU

In the 'Quraan', in the 'Bible' and the 'Gita' has declared that is charity.., not wealth, which is really important. In similar way, in human being, it is not the ability to speak well but the truth which is uttered, that is important.

If there is no truth in your speech, then whatever you say will have no valve at all. In all those scriptures has also declared that it is not life itself but
'a good character is important'.
A life devoid of good character is useless. You have to develop your character and earn a good name 'so that all the noble human qualities will shine forth in you'.

Your most important duty is to harbor good thoughts, to have good behavior, to speak good words and to lead a good life. You must be very careful with your words and actions so that you will never earn a bad name. Instead of living the life of:

"A crow for a hundred years scavenging
off others.., it is far better to live a few moments as a swan, with
an untainted name and unblemished character".


All the scriptures extols such a sterling soul whose life is replete with goodness. Good actions are far more important than physical strength. A body that is not being used to serve others is nothing but a dead body. Use your body in the service of mankind, not just for the purpose of catering to your own selfish needs. Today, whatever man does, thinks or utters is primarily prompted by selfishness. In order to overcome this tendency, you have to constantly seek opportunities to help others and develop the principle of service. In this process, by your good actions, all of humanity will get sanctified.

It is very difficult to obtain birth as human being. You must spend some time thinking over how to properly utilize this rare life that has been given to you and develop good habits which will overcome these weakness of desire and anger that waste your golden chance.

SEMUA ORANG AKAN TUA, TETAPI - "TIDAK SEMESTINYA IA SEORANG YANG MATANG"

TUA adalah ciptaan Tuhan, suatu teknologi yang tidak disukai oleh semua orang. Maka banyaklah pakar-pakar kecantikan, kosmetik, yang ingin mencegah, merawat.., kedut dan kerepot di muka. Realitinya, kita patut bersyukur dan menerima teknologi tersebut dan bukan menolaknya. Kita patut menghalusi sifat-sifat yang berjisim dan segala sifat yang bergelar 'baharu' pasti akan musnah, hancur dan lenyap.

Justru saudara pembaca yang dikasihi!

Mari kita memahami dengan lebih mendalam apa definisi 'TUA' dan 'KEMATANGAN'. Adalah sangat jauh bezanya yang dikatakan 'tua' dan 'kematangan'. Sangat-sangat jauh bezanya dan ramai orang terkeliru tentangnya.

Ramai orang menganggap bahawa apabila kita tua, kita adalah orang yang matang... Perlu diingat bahawa!..

"TUA adalah TUBUH BADAN, ia bersifat
baharu, pastinya tertakluk kepada perubahan dan kelenyapan".


Semua orang akan tua, semua orang akan menjadi tua, tetapi tidak semestinya matang. Ambil perhatian!..

"Kematangan sifatnya adalah
PERKEMBANGAN DALAMAN".


TUA pula, bukanlah pelakuan kita, ianya adalah sesuatu yang berlaku
terhadap FIZIKAL kita masing-masing. Tiada siapa yang mampu mencegahnya dari terus menjadi tua, sila perhatikan dan amati proses semasa kita kanak-kanak.

Setiap bayi yang lahir, bila masa berlalu, kita tidak sedar ia membesar,
tumbuh dan mengembang.., tahu-tahu sudah tua.
Kematangan adalah sesuatu yang kita bawa dalam penghidupan kita...
Ia hadir dan datang dalam kesedaran kita sehari-hari.

"Apabila seseorang itu tua dengan
penuh kesedaran, itu ertinya ia seorang
yang matang. Tua yang penuh dengan erti kesedaran ditambah dengan pengalaman
dan kesedaran... Itulah yang dikatakan KEMATANGAN".


Kita semua sudah melalui, mengalami apa jua, ceramah, syarahan, tetapi kita bagaikan orang yang terlena, mimpi, atau macam kena pukau, tidak sedar, tidak peka, bagaikan tidak berada dalam majlis tersebut, walaupun tubuh badan itu sedang duduk di kerusi yang empuk di situ. Kita bagaikan tidak pernah hadir atau berada di situ. Di akal itu tidak lekat, tidak dihinggap oleh apa-apa. Maka kita dikatakan 'tidak pernah belajar apa-apa', ia cuma bagaikan suatu memori dan kenangan dalam majlis tersebut. Ia tidak menyerap dan meresap, ia tidak membuat kita menjadi arif, pastinya kita'tidak akan subur dan mengembang', semuanya tidak menjadi pengajaran kepada kita... Tiba-tiba kita 'tua' begitu saja.

Perlu diingat!..

"Jika kita punya nilai dan membawa
nilai kesedaran dalam pengalaman kita sehari-hari, nanti melalui
pengalaman tersebutlah kita jadi orang yang matang".


Maka kita boleh merasai dan mengalami sesuatu benda dalam hidup dengan 'DUA' cara:

PERTAMA: Kita boleh hidup secara orang yang sangat nyenyak atau digelar 'tidur mati', tidur! tidur! tidur! Tahu-tahu kita sudah tua. Setiap detik dan saat kita menjadi tua, setiap detik dan saat itu juga kita terus saja 'mati'... Itu saja! Ertinya seluruh penghidupan kita selama ini diisi dengan 'kematian yang sangat panjang' atau mati yang berlaku secara perlahan-lahan.

KEDUA
: Jika kita membawa kesedaran dalam hidup kita dan dijadikan pengalaman, nanti apa saja yang kita lakukan dan menimpa kita, pastinya kita akan lebih berwaspada, berhati-hati dan beringat-ingat serta akan kita nikmatinya dari pelbagai sudut dan penjuru.

Dalam erti kata lain; kita cuba menembusi untuk memahami dengan lebih mendalam lagi, kita cuba ingin memahami dan hidup bersungguh-sungguh secara total. Ertinya ia bukan suatu phenomena luaran yang bersifat kulit. Nanti jauh di dalam diri itu akan berlaku suatu perubahan. Kita akan lebih berwaspada. Jika ia suatu kesilapan, pengalaman tersebut akan mengingatkan kita bahawa kita tidak akan mengulangnya lagi.

Ingat! Orang yang benar-benar matang, tidak akan mengulang kesilapan yang sama. Tetapi bagi orang yang hidupnya semata-mata melalui proses tua begitu saja, akan terus-menerus melakukan kesilapan demi kesilapan. Hidupnya berputar-putar... Ia tidak pernah belajar apa-apa dalam hidup ini.

Ia akan marah hari ini, semalam pun ia marah, sehari sebelum semalam pun ia marah, esok pun ia akan marah, dan hari keesokannya pun ia akan marah. Terus saja akan marah dan naik berang, dalam masa yang sama juga ia menyesal, buat dan menyesal lagi, berkali-kali membuat keputusan tidak akan melakukannya lagi.

Tetapi keputusan tinggal dengan keputusan, tiada perubahan. Apabila rasa diganggu dan terganggu lagi, marah menguasai lagi... Kita terbelenggu, kerana kesilapan... Amarah masih berlaku... Kita sudah tua!

Kematangan sangatlah penting, kerana orang yang matang memahami.., irama dan rentak hidup ini punya sifat berpasang-pasang. Ingat saudaraku yang budiman!..

Dalam hidup ini kita tidak boleh sentiasa saja bergembira.., jika tidak, kegembiraan itu sendiri akan hilang erti maksud dan tujuannya. Begitu juga kita tidak boleh sentiasa saja berada dalam suasana harmoni.., nanti kita tidak sedar
akan keharmonian itu sendiri.

Keharmonian mesti diiringi dengan pertelingkahan secara berulang-ulang, berkali-kali, begitu juga kegembiraan, mesti diiringi dengan kedukacitaan.

"Setiap keseronokan dan kegembiraan
punya kepedihan dan keperitannya yang tersendiri. Tetapi setiap keperitan
dan kepedihan juga punya nikmat kegembiraan sesudah keperitan".


Perlu diingat!..
Hanya bagi mereka yang benar-benar faham bahawa dunia ini sifatnya berpasang-pasang, maka tidaklah perlu seseorang itu berasa gusar terhadap apa saja gelaran yang menimpanya; 'suka atau duka'.., 'senang atau susah', atau sebagainya. Terimalah secara total dengan segala kesengsaraan, dengan segala keghairahan; jangan inginkan atau mengidam akan sesuatu yang mustahil. Jangan berfikir hanya ada kegembiraan sahaja, tanpa pasangannya seperti kepedihan dan kesengsaraan. Ingat!.. Semuanya ada pasangan.

"Kesengsaraan atau keazaban bagaikan
papan hitam - kegembiraan atau keseronokan bagaikan sesuatu yang putih
dan jelas tertulis di permukaan papan hitam tersebut".


Ia juga tidak ubah seperti gelap gelita malam, di mana bintang-bintang dan bulan terang benderang di waktu malam. Semakin gelapnya malam, semakin teranglah bulan dan bintang-bintang tersebut. Di siang hari ia tidak terbit dan tidak juga lenyap. Cuma ia tidak kelihatan di mata kasar. Kita tidak dapat melihatnya kerana tiada bandingan. Sifat berpasang mesti ada bandingan. Contoh:

"Kematian mentakrif kehidupan"
"Ketuaan mentakrif kematangan"


Saudaraku pembaca yang dikasihi!

Bersungguh-sungguhlah, kerana hidup ini terlalu singkat dan terlalu cepat berlakunya. Setiap saat sangat berharga dan bernilai, sebentar lagi kita akan mati, tiada masa atau waktu lagi, inilah saatnya kita perlu menyelam ke dasar penghidupan ini, sedalam yang mungkin. Mana tahu? Sebentar lagi kita akan meninggalkan dunia illusi ini selama-lamanya. Ingat pesanan ini!...

Perhatikan rentak dan irama dalam hidup ini dengan redha dan penuh tawakkal:
"Jika keazaban dan kesengsaraan mendatangi
kita, terimalah ia.
Jika kegembiraan dan keseronokan mendatangi kita, terimalah ia".


Kerana kedua-duanya adalah 'kawan sepermainan'. Itulah sesuatu yang sangat-sangat penting difahami, mesti difahami. Jika ianya benar-benar difahami dan diingati oleh kita semua, hidup kita akan jadi benar-benar matang, hidup ini pasti punya perisa yang sangat baru dan berlainan.

Kita akan jadi orang yang benar-benar matang, tenang, terurus, kekal dan mudah menerima. Orang yang benar-benar matang, memang hidupnya tenang, mampu senyap, menerima kepedihan, keperitan, kehampaan dan kekecewaan. Ia mampu merubah nilai-nilai keazabannya cara tersendiri. Padanya keazaban itu adalah 'perbendaharaan'. Padanya kepedihan juga adalah ketajaman di akalnya. Padanya kegelapan maempunyai keindahannya yang tersendiri. Padanya, kematian itu bukanlah
suatu kesudahan, malah suatu permulaan padanya.

Untuk pengetahuan bagi orang-orang yang benar-benar matang, ia seorang yang aneh dan pelik, kerana kematangannya membuatnya sangat berpengalaman. Seolah-olah ia seorang yang sudah tua, secara fiziknya ia mungkin sudah tua, tetapi secara spiritualnya ia seorang bersih dan suci.

Pada saya, 'kematangan' adalah di antara yang dikatakan 'kesedaran'. Petanda kepada kesempurnaan dan kemenangan dalam menempuh liku-liku hidup yang penuh dengan dugaan dan cobaan. Barulah benar tulen kemanusiaan kita. Dalam erti kata lain;

"Sebiji benih yang telah melalui
proses perjalanan hidupnya untuk menjadi
sepohon pokok rendang yang boleh diteduhi oleh semua orang dan dapat
pula dinikmati oleh semua orang dan burung-burung bila ia mula
berbunga, memutik menjadi buah yang masak ranum"
. Ingat!..

Kematangan mempunyai haruman dan aroma, ia menyerlahkan ketrampilan, kematangan yang sangat cantik dan indah pada setiap individu. Ia juga adalah seorang yang bijaksana dan mempunyai ketajaman akal. Dianya adalah seorang yang tidak lain penuh dengan kasih sayang, geraklakunya menggamit kasih ssyang. Kematiannya jelas senyuman di bibirnya. Mereka yang matang itu memang benar-benar sekuntum bunga pujaan ramai, kerana orang matang mengamalkan hidup sehariannya dengan;

"Memulai dengan Kasih Sayang,
memenuhi dengan Kasih Sayang, dan
disudahi dengan Kasih Sayang".


"Sila panjangkan risalah ini kepada
orang-orang yang zahirnya kelihatan tua,
tetapi tidak matang, sebelum mati menjenguk di pintu
".

YOU ARE BORN ENLIGHTENED WHETHER YOU REALIZE IT OR NOT

Dear readers!

If you don't know the way towards enlightenment! So there is very possibility of losing the way of going astray.

Just by chance a few people have stumbled upon enlightenment. It was just by accident, because millions of people have been trying and finding nothing.

There are not aware that their search is making them too tense; their very effort is creating a state in which enlightenment cannot happen.

"Enlightenment can happen when you are so silent, so relaxed. That you are almost not. Just a pure silence and immediately the explosion, the explosion of your luminous soul."

Please remember!

The people who have been very arduous simply destroyed their intelligence, or the body, and I don't think they attained to enlightenment. The very few people who attained to enlightenment have attained in a relaxed state... because relaxation is the very soil in which the roses of enlightenment grow.

If you want to know the recipe of enlightenment, if you want it to day.., you can get enlightened today! But please be at ease, relaxed, with no effort, because...

"Enlightenment Is Your Innermost Being".

Just because you are so much engaged in effort, in seeking, in searching, doing this, doing that, you never reach to your own self. In relaxing and at ease you are not going anywhere, you are not doing anything and the grass starts growing by itself.

All that is needed is alertness, intelligence,consciousness. Which are no efforts; witnessing, watching, which are not tensions. They are very joyful experience. You don't get tired of them, get very calm and quiet.

I say unto you - all efforts of enlightenment are stupid. Because; 'enlightenment' is your nature! It is just you don't know. Otherwise you are enlightenment already. As far as I am concerned you are all enlightenment, because I can see your luminous flame within. When I see you, I don't see your figure, I see your being, which is just a beautiful flame, such as my good friend Michael Yap, Wong Tee Liang and others.

Enlightened person could look as deep into himself as he could into everyone. Everybody needs to realize its own nature, without that life is not a joy.., not a festivity.

Just be a little intelligent, and enlightenment will happen on its own accord; you don't have to think about it.
Just be a little intelligent. The world is not intelligent, it is functioning in a very unintelligent way and is creating all kinds of miseries for everyone rather than helping them to be happier.

Everybody is pulling on each others' leg, dragging them into deeper darkness, into deeper mud, into deeper trouble. It seems in this world everybody enjoys only one thing; creating misery for others. That's why such a cloud of darkness surrounds the earth. Otherwise there would have been a continuous festival of lights, remember!
Not ordinary lights, but lights of your very being.

My friends, bear in mind! Enlightenment is the easiest thing in the world. But there a people out there never wanted the whole world to become enlightened - they have to be kept blind to their own nature. They just give you the idea that it is a very difficult, impossible task, and your ego become immediately interested. The ego is never interested in that which you are. It is only interested in a far away goal - the farther the goal, the greater the interest, please remember!

"But enlightenment is not a goal and it is
not even an inch away from you, because the seeker is the sought".


Once you understand that your very nature is enlightenment you are intelligent, if you cannot understand, you are not intelligent, you are simply an egoist who is trying - just as some egoists are trying to be the richest man, a few other egoists are trying to be the most powerful, a few egoists are trying to become enlightened.

But enlightenment is not possible for the ego: Richest are possible, power is possible, prestige is possible and they are difficult things.., very difficult.

"You Are Born Enlightened Whether You Realize
It or Not!"


If you all become enlightened, you will be simply light, a joy to yourself and to others, a blessing to yourself and to the whole existence. Nobody can exploit you, nobody can in any way enslave you. If you want freedom, enlightenment is the only freedom. If you want individuality, enlightenment is the individuality. If you want life full of blessing, enlightenment is the only experience.

And it is very easy... Utterly easy; it's the one thing you don't have to do anything to get, because it is your very nature... It is your own being. It is not to be thought about.., it has to be seen.

It is already there: You don't have to go anywhere to find it. But unoccupied space is needed within you so that the light that is hidden can expand and fill your being. It is not only fills your being, it starts radiating from your being. Your whole life becomes a beauty, a beauty that is not of the body, but a beauty that radiates from within, the beauty of your consciousness... Please remember it comes when it finds you are really at ease, no tension, no effort and immediately it showers on you like thousands of flowers.

Enlightenment is the topic that you have to step out of the world of time and mind, its ambitions and competitiveness. And you must go through a deep cleansing process before you can hope to achieve, relaxed state of enlightenment.